Fake Friends ; How to spot them in 7 ways
Friendship is a lot like falling in love. You meet someone. You find that you two have the same interests (“You like coffee? No way! Me too!”) and you hit it off from there, fancying yourselves as an inseparable duo. Like Batman and Robin. Two peas in a Batpod. What we seem to forget along the way is that friendship is based on give and take. You do something, and the other returns the sentiment. Not out of obligation, but because there’s a mutual understanding, a shared confidence that you’ll do anything for each other. It’s a wonderful feeling, that sense of security, support, and structure.
But what happens when the give and take stops and suddenly it’s just take take take? When the support caves in and the structure begins to feel more like shackles? That is a friendship that’s not worth the effort. To put it simply, you’ve got a fake friend on your hands. Everyone has come across a fake friend at some point in their lives. They may even be standing next to you and you don’t even know it. Lucky for you, there are warning signs to look out for…
1. They make you feel guilty for not hanging out with them.
“How come we don’t hang out anymore?” “Why aren’t you in my life?” Sound familiar? Those nagging, needy, and selfish questions designed to put you on the spot. They enjoy doing this more than you think. They watch as you fumble for an excuse. And they know they’ve got you once they hear your inevitable admission that perhaps, yes, they were right, that you two should be hanging out more often. I’m here to tell you to stop. Don’t give in to the guilt trip. I repeat, do NOT give in. It’s a string that fake friends have no problem in pulling, which makes you their puppet. If you find yourself in this position time and time again, it’s probably time that you cut them loose. After all, there’s a reason why you two stopped hanging out in the first place. Perhaps you should remind them.